Monday, January 16, 2017

Here I Go. Here I Go. Here I Go Again. Girls, What's Your Weakness....?

Not blogging for two years, allegedly.

I feel the need to do the obligatory mic tap...Hello?...*tap tap tap*...is this thing on?

We shall see. 

So hey there. It's me. My name is Morgandi. I like to rap in the titles of my blog posts. I love a cheeseburger. And I've had this thing on private mode since July of 2014. Nothing has been added. Nothing has been changed. It's just been a time of much needed privacy and change and growth. Lots and lots and lots of growth.

I'm not really sure where to start, and whether I'll ever fill in the gap. But I feel the need to start. And this might be prompted by a New Year's resolution, but that doesn't negate that I've missed writing. It's something I love so dearly. And I've missed this community.

Hopefully my little story will give some laughs, share some insight and possibly be an encouragement to others. Because, aren't we all just trying our best?

So I'll leave you with a couple of pictures. This way you won't be confused when I start posting pictures and you don't recognize my three because they've grown so.

Here they are Christmas morning, 2016.

Stella, Emmett and Chloe (with stellar bed head...they learned it from me).


And this is us. (By the way have you watched, This is Us. Holy moly tear fest.)

See you all soon.

Good to be back.

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Independence Day: A New Chapter

As the girls and I were lying in my bed this morning (because they sneak in like ninjas during the night), we were looking at old pictures on my blog. I couldn't help but be so grateful that I have those memories and stories for them. Plus, it immortalizes how hilarious I can be. It sent me longing for more stories in a new chapter; times that they can look back on and a place they can have their story (and mine) told. 

And what better time than now. 4th of July. 2014. My favorite holiday of the year. A day when I no longer looked, or felt like, I had the life sucked out of me.

Let's take a look back at the 4th of July, 2013.



Total life suck-age happening. This day was one of the worst days of my life. Everything around me was crumbling and at the time, I didn't know why. Little did I know what the year ahead would bring, and little did I know that I would have to fight like hell to make it to the other side.

But make it, I did. And I know that life will be full of trials, but I made it through this one. And I'm pretty proud of myself. 


As much as I wanted to die and as much as I wanted to spend day after day in bed, I woke up every day and made it through.


 I loved my children. I sought a deeper faith. I cried. I laughed.


I was depressed. I sought help. 


I learned. I grew up.



I cussed. I prayed. I made mistakes. I asked for forgiveness.


But most importantly, God somehow gave me the strength to never, ever, ever abandon or neglect my kids. 


He allowed me to be their mom and to continue raising and loving them. 


I got out of bed for them.


There are days I still do. 

But it's mainly to get them milk. Always. Wanting. Milk.



So let the new chapter of my life begin.


May the life never be sucked out of me again. And if it is, may I fight like hell once again.



So here's to a new chapter, a life that is different than I had once dreamed, and to new beginnings.
 


Oh, and to these three. My heart and soul. My reason. 

My sweet family on the 4th of July, 2014.

For when I am old and senile and reminiscing, I can find a year's worth of pictures here.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

3 Months.

We are going to something really fun and very innovative.

We are going to compare all of my children at 3 months of age.

You're intrigued, right?

And then we are going to see who looks more like whom. Whom looks like whom? Who looks like who?

Anyway, we're doing something along those lines. I think this might be the first time anyone has ever posted such a thing.

Here they are. All three little Lashleys at 3 months of age.

Guess which one is which. (And please ignore the fact that one of these pictures is a repeat from my last post. At least I changed it from black and white to color.)
 


The order is.......drumroll..... Emmett, Chloe, Stella. 

To me, he looks so much like both. As long as he doesn't behave like either one of them he has a lot of cuteness in his future. 

But I don't know, he sure does have that same twinkle in his eyes..

I think I'm in for it.

Monday, May 13, 2013

Whoever Said.

I really thought I was going to let this thing die. And by this thing. I mean this blog. I was ready to let it have the sad, slow embarrassing death it deserved.

But I've changed my mind.

I got things to say, people.

Whoever said the transition from two to three kids was easy was big old liar. I don't think anyone actually told me that, but I thought it would be easier than what it really is.

But in the craziness that is now my life, there have been some pretty awesome moments. Our family feels complete and we really do love being together.


I mean, how can you not love these precious faces?

The past few months have been transition after transition after transition. And I think I'm able to finally put thought to keyboard and revive this sad, little blog.

Consider yourself warned.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

My Little Weirdos.

Let's count them. 1.2.3.
There is an actual order to their levels of weirdness. But a mom never reveals those kinds of things.

I'll let you guess.

Anyhoo...I'm instagram-ing. And I'm obsessed. Here's the link if you're interested. 

But I'm sure you're not. 

Which makes you wise. Very, very wise.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

A Precious Heart.

I have to say that this post has been a while in the making. And if I'm being honest, I didn't know if I would ever post anything about this. I feel and have felt hesitant for a few reasons. The last thing I would ever want to do is to use my child's health to garner attention. I could talk about my kids day in and day out in regards to light-hearted issues, but the opposite would never and will never be easy for me to do. Secondly, I do not want to be dramatic. What I am posting about is not the worst thing that could happen. There have been too many circumstances in the lives of those around me that have been tragic. This is not tragic. And I have been constantly reminded of this. And finally, in spite of blogging openly about being a mom and the hilarity that accompanies having kids, I am a private person. I hold so many things close to the chest. And this is one that I have held the dearest. I have had to accept and deal with our circumstance, and it has taken me a while. A lot of prayer. A lot of tears. A lot of soul-searching and a lot of trust has brought me to the point where I'm ready to share our story.

On February 5, I dropped the girls off at school and headed to Emmett's first doctor's appointment with our pediatrician. The appointment was going normally...Emmett looked great, until he listened to Emmett's heart. Our pediatrician looked at me and said very calmly, "I hear a murmur in his heart."

"What does that mean?" I asked. My own heart beginning to race.

"It means that he probably has a small hole in his heart. These usually close up on their own (in a few years) and it's nothing to worry about for now. He will need to have an ultrasound within the next week or so. As soon as I get the results I will give you a call."

Now here's the part where I pretended to be a duck. You know, calm on top of the water but you're paddling like hell underneath. Instead of my ears ringing and my head spinning with shock, I just listened and continued breathing and asked a few questions. After reassuring me several times that Emmett was not in any danger, we left with our ultrasound appointment scheduled.

The second I got to the car I began crying and called Jason. Shaken up himself, he called our pediatrician and asked more questions. Jason called me back and reassured me that everything was going to be okay. That Emmett was going to be okay. He also said that our doctor was expecting a phone call...it was obvious to him that I was upset. So much for being a duck. Jason and I decided to keep the news to ourselves; at least until we learned more after the ultrasound. Until we knew the severity of the murmur, we were not going to panic. Easier said than done.

On February 14, I took Emmett to Children's Hospital for his ultrasound. I was scared out of my mind. I just had this feeling that we were not going to get the news we were wanting. But I was still hopeful. Scared, but hopeful. Being that it was Valentine's Day (the irony was not lost on me), some of the patients at the hospital were in the lobby to celebrate the day. Looking around at all of the precious kids who had serious issues, I was reminded that Emmett's murmur (if it was in fact a due to a hole in his heart) was minor in comparison. I was going to walk out of the hospital with my child that day. And I kept reminding myself of that fact.

During the ultrasound, I continually pestered the poor technician for information. She assured me that after she did the test, she would take the results to the cardiologist. If there wasn't a serious issue, she would send us home and our pediatrician would call us with the results in a day or so. If there was an issue, the cardiologist would come in and talk to me. When the technician left to consult the cardiologist,  I sat and waited, holding my precious baby. All I could think was, 'who is going to walk through that door? The cardiologist or the technician?' I don't think I've ever prayed harder than I did in the 10 minutes we waited. Throughout my prayers, I could feel them being answered. While I didn't think we were going to get the news that we wanted, I knew that God was going to take care of us and that everything would be okay.

As I knew, the cardiologist walked in. My heart sank. I was hoping it would be the technician telling us to go home with a wink and a nod, but it was the cardiologist. With serious news. We found out that Emmett has a VSD 4-5 mm in size. As the cardiologist explained, this was neither the smallest nor the largest hole she's seen in her career. It's moderate. She assured me that Emmett was not in any danger and that he would go on to live a very normal life. On the scale of all Congenital Heart Defects this is the most treatable and the most common. It is so common in fact, that 1 in 100 babies are born with VSDs. In terms of treatment, it often requires nothing. The hole closes up and it never causes any problems. For others, it causes problems in terms of growth and surgery is required to close the hole. But the good news is once the hole is closed, a normal life resumes.

So what does this mean for our sweet Emmett? For now, it means regular trips to the doctor to ensure that things are going normally for him, and it also means that we watch his eating habits at home. Thankfully for right now, his VSD is not causing any problems. If it does begin to present problems, he will more than likely need surgery. And our doctor thinks that due to the size of the hole, surgery is more likely than not. But at this point, we just don't know. We watch and we wait.

The best advice our pediatrician and cardiologist both gave us is to go on with life. Treat him normally. Treat him just as we would if nothing were wrong. And that is just what we have done. Life has gone on. And while we know it's there, we don't dwell on it. We are incredibly hopeful that a miracle will happen and that the hole will close on its own. And if it doesn't, we know that he will be in the best hands in terms of treatment and care. As crazy as it sounds, our life has been so blessed by everything that has happened. In so many ways we've never been happier. We have leaned on each other more and we are learning to live in the moment. We have no choice but to live in the moment. Nothing in life is guaranteed. Time with our children is not guaranteed. We have to be thankful for what we've been given. It doesn't mean that we haven't had moments of complete sadness and fearfulness, but God has been faithful. And in return, we are very, very thankful.

And since we have been advised to go on with life and treat Emmett normally, you can expect this blog to turn back to what it always is...me making fun of my kids. Emmett now included. I mean, if your mom can't make fun of you, who can? And hopefully one day, we will write a post about a miracle.

In the meantime, we will continue praying. We will continue hoping. And we will forever be thankful for our precious boy and his beautiful and precious heart.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

A Comparison.

Just a fun little newborn comparison.

Chloe and Emmett.


Stella and Emmett.

I'm not really sure who he looks more like.

My mom says it best when she says, "He just looks like Emmett."

And in even more exciting news that really only excites me, I've heard more people say that he looks like me.

This is the first time I've heard those words uttered. 

And you know I secretly love it.