Chloe had a swim lesson a couple of weeks ago, and it was just another boy and Chloe that particular day. The little boy's mom said, "Oh it's a baby date. Carter*, is Chloe your girlfriend now?" I tried to smile and blow it off, but it made my skin crawl. I said, "I've decided she can't date until she's a year old. We had trouble with her getting home by curfew a few weeks ago..., " or something stupid like that. Yes, I'm sure it was that stupid. But I know that my face said it all. It always does. I would not be good at poker.
All I could think about is this sweet, little innocent girl. My little rugrat of a child who doesn't have a care in the world. Who wants nothing more than to play and to be happy. And then I think about her growing up, and I think about the day that she will want to date. That she will be interested in boys. That she will have boyfriends. And until that day, I don't ever want her to worry about having a boyfriend. I want her to have confidence in herself. I want her to have as many friends as she wants; girls and boys alike. I never want her to think that having a boyfriend is something that we praise or admire, or something that will make her more than she actually is. She's perfect just being Chloe. I always want her to feel that way. I want her to feel that way so when she does date, she will not find value or self-worth in it. She will find that in herself.
Boys can wait. There's time for all of that. Until then, I want to protect her and give her the chance to remain a little girl. The word "boyfriend" will not be uttered in our house until the word comes out of her mouth.
And I know this will probably be on her first day of kindergarten.
And she will have a boyfriend.
And this post will come back to bite me, and will be deleted immediately.
*Names have been changed to protect the innocent.